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Our daf claims that in Eretz Yisrael prospective grooms were challenged with the following question:
”When a man marries a woman, people ask him: מצא or מוצא ?Is the match one where you say: ‘One who has found a woman has found (מצא (good?’
Or is it one where you say: Behold, I have found (מוצא (the woman more bitter than death?’”
The daf rehearses a number of rabbis and their experiences with their wives "Rav was once taking leave of Rav Hiyya. The latter said to him, 'May the All-Merciful deliver you from that which is worse than death'. 'But is there' [Rav wondered] 'anything that is worse than death'? When he went out, he considered the matter and found [the following text]: And I find more bitter than death the woman'" (Kohelet 7:26, Yevamot 63a).
We examine women as wives in the talmud.