The Grief of it All jyungar September 23, 2017 “If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering.Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death, human life cannot be complete.”Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning“Grief is love's souvenir. It's our proof that we once loved. Grief isthe receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Lovewas once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.”Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior: A MemoirBorn into griefThe mother’s scars,The father’s unconscious betrayal,The olive-skinned boy,Too dark for the taste of the British racist teachersQuestioning too much,Refusing to obey authority immediately,A sense of the tragic already thenPermeates his being.This inheritance of grief,Born a mere 5 years after the tremendumThose night panics,The fear of death so earlyA feeling that my life had already accordionedAnd I was sensing my impending demise.This sense of the tragic quality of life,That fuels the very core of the universe,That the divine catastrophe that was creation(The Lurianic “breaking of the vessels”)Affected every holographic particle,Infected every heart (chalal hapanui)Resulting in that the sum total of all human suffering.My early horror seeing human suffering,The amputee veteran opening the doors of Harrods,And man’s inhumanity to man, so close.My melted soul when facing the tears of anotherMy ability to question god and his justice,So earlyNow haunts my very interpretation of texts, history and culture.It is as ifI cannot escape this globalizing tendencyDespite post-modern critiqueKnowing full well that history is in the detailsHaving philosophically relinquished overarching thematics and trajectories(Knowing that doctrine and ideology and historiography led to Auschwitz)I still move in those drives to make meaning over the meaningless.As if I feel that I cannot settle for the mundane and the particularI search for the delusion of a Frankl universe, this elusive search for meaning,The Father figure, who will make sense of it all finally,The relief that the god-image might provide.The sense of acceleration of time informs the tragic,As ifMy life’s path has so little time leftSo much to still accomplishAndFaced with my failuresAnd mediocrityI hang suspended in this space of frustration.Peculiar how grief rears its headIn the most unexpected placesIn the moment of lovemakingI am overcome with grief,In the beauty of a pastoral landscapeIt overwhelms me,In holding my darling grandchildrenTheir tiny heads in the nape of my neck,Or my son resting on my chest on a Chesapeake Bay yachtUnder the stars, my heart melts in grief.Anticipatory griefOf things as yet to unfoldOf losing loved ones,As yet to leave this worldEach parting a possible last.Of body parts no longer functioningAnd anticipating what is yet to afflict,Of faculties, no longer able to senseThe beauty and mystery of music and a sunset.Bathed in these tears,I face the futureDrowning in grief(It does not release me)the little boy inside continues to be heardpulling me to the deep,inside the heart of darkness.