Anything and everything to avoid the real questions…
How to make sense of the absurdity,
How to face the mediocrity of the self,
The Kritik and his pointing finger!
When we face those who say “j’accuse”
In all honesty,
How our character defects,
Staring at us in the mirror,
The toxic shame rising up
Envelops the soul,
And we see how little we have added,
How poverty stricken our contribution,
How accurate was the headmaster to prophetically
Declare “you are a B student” you will always be!
And all those voices who gathered collectively
At the summer home of the Kritik
To voice the final verdict. Guilty.
Living with,
The anticipation,
Anticipatory grief,
Facing this,
Facing aging parents,
In the presence of memory loss
Knowing that each statement will be forgotten immediately
That the next fall could be the coups-de-grace
That lands mum or dad back in the hospital
For the last fracture and sepsis
Knowing this yet persisting in the normality,
“as if” everything remains normal,
goes on as normal
continues as normal.
Facing my own slow foibles
The loss of keys,
Leaving stuff everywhere,
The shoulder and hip pain,
The slow reduction in ambition
The absent libido.
Issues with memory slowly creeping into consciousness.
I fully accept the decay,
And marvel at how modernity has been so successful in preserving the body
At the expense of the mind and soul.
(The indignity of the ICU still fresh.)
How does one conduct oneself?
In the presence of such an awareness?
In the face of such knowledge?
How does one accept the reality?
What is the myth to hold on to here?
What is the Midrashic interpretation useful to deal with this?
What is the theology of dementia?
Are there myths to hold this new reality?
Does God suffer from memory loss?
Which religion allows for such heresy?
How does one perform rituals to celebrate such decline?
What are their shape?
Is there blood?
“do not go gently into the night”
Thomas tells his father:
But mine is so at peace!
So wondrous he has survived!
Hitler, the Anschluss, -kindertransport- England
The HMS Dunera, U boats, Australia, Tatura
London, The Blitz,
Now 95 he boasts of his isometrics!
His abs firmer than mine!
His shofar blowing as vigorous as ever.
Yet I cannot accept the way he can, so blithely
At least not yet,
I cannot go so gently into the night,
Not yet…
It all stems from that trajectory
Of protest
At the way things are, ever since childhood,
The way things are supposed to be
The way our teachers and authority figures
Projected the Rabbinic God into our childhood psyches
The “Mashal of the King” coming to me only later,
A tyrant with such power,
He can gouge the eyes of his violinist [1]
In the Beshtian parable
In order to hear his favorite piece
Repeatedly, with such passion
He tortures for his pleasure.
I refuse our projections of power,
Our genuflections and rituals to this tyrant,
My heresy is complete in the flames of the crematoria [2]
There is no other path now.
It is so lonely however,
Without my father’s naïve faith
Borne of centuries of Oberlander frumkeit
No community of non-believers
No rituals of heresy,
No ark of post-modern morality to worship,
Only the nightmarish landscape of darkness
Terrorism and
A winter of discontent.
Facing worst of all,
My own character deficits
They indict me consistently,
Disallowing me the authority to speak this way
To think the heresy,
After all
Centuries of Rabbinic authority
The ‘ecclesia’, the Mesorah, the men I still respect for their scholarship
Believers all of them!
(Rav Soloveitchik, A.J.Heschel, R. Auerbach, R. Kook, The Leshem, R. Eliyashiv,
Reb Nachman’s quantum Hassidut)
Men of greater intellect for sure,
Greater spiritual stature,
I even believed their rhetoric-so masterful
Covering up for the divine with powerful Lurianic myths
Of intra-divine fracture…
Even the Kritik laughs at me!
Even at this you are a failure!
A failure of belief-Emunah.
The slow decline also affects courage
The courage to not believe
In the hidebound theologies
The outmoded beliefs in a good God
In the refusal to accept Auschwitz for what it is
And the peer pressure, the community
And its beloved Rabbi, who, at times of weakness,
Makes me feel God is possible,
Degeneration of all biological life
Physical and mental
Slowly mostly
Punctuated by crises
Of the flesh
Emergency rooms ICU rehabilitation,
Then return,
Slightly lessened,
Slightly diminished and so the cycle repeats.
Facing the ultimate
Demise,
Slowly,
What do we think or say on the way down?
The slow drowning
What? I’ll tell you!
A Hymn to no-body
Paul Celan my Rebbe.
[1] There was a king who loved music but his real passion was the violin. A fiddler was brought to him to play and one particular melody captivated him. He instructed the musician to play this melody several times a day. After a time the musician grew weary of the tune and found it hard to play it with the same passion as before. To rekindle the fiddler's love for his favorite melody, the king was advised to summons a new audience every day. Strangers were brought into his palace who had never heard the melody. This arrangement seemed to work. A new audience stirred the fiddler to play with enthusiasm again until there was no one left to invite. What to do? It was decided to blind the musician so that he never see a human form again(Another kinder, more Besht-like version is that he became blind) He then sat before the king and whenever the king sought to hear his favorite tune he would simply say "Here comes someone new, one who has never heard you play before!" And musician would play his tune with the greatest joy.
[2] The story of the Beis Yisroel comes to mind...He once asked Rabbi Lau's older brother who had nurtured him during their internment in a concentration camp the following questions..."were you there?" yes replied Lau "were you by the crematoria?" yes replied Lau "did you see the smoke?" yes replied Lau "did you see the heilige Bashefer go up in the smoke?" Lau was silent.
Julian Ungar-Sargon
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